There's nothing quite like a mind-blowing orgasm. But for some people, regardless of gender, orgasms are anything but enjoyable. Some people even dread them. If you're one of those people, you're not alone. Here's what you need to know about bad orgasms and how to fix them.
What does a Bad Orgasm Feels Like?
There is no definitive answer to this question, as everyone experiences orgasm differently. However, some people may describe a nasty orgasm as weak or less intense than usual, lasting for a shorter amount of time than usual, or feeling unsatisfying. Bad orgasms can be defined as a non-positive, non-pleasurable, or negative orgasm. On the other hand, a good orgasm may feel more intense and last longer than expected, a positive and satisfying experience.
Orgasm is caused by events that start in your brain and go down to your genitals. It can be triggered by sexual stimulation or fantasy alone or involve your whole body.
The sequence of events can vary depending on several factors, including:
- The type of stimulation you experience (oral, vaginal, or anal)
- How aroused you are
- Are you in the mood to have sex
- Your relationship with your partner
Why do Bad Orgasms Happen?
There is no one answer to this question as there are many possible causes of bad orgasms. Some potential causes include:
- Not in the mood to have sex but do it anyway
- A lack of sexual arousal or stimulation
- Anxiety or stress
- Certain medications or medical conditions
- Performance anxiety
- Inadequate foreplay
- Poor communication with your partner
- Poor body image
- Unsatisfying sex or fantasy
It's common for people to think that they're not having an orgasm when they're just not receiving enough stimulation. Here are a few signs that you may be experiencing a lousy orgasm:
1. You avoid sexual situations or fantasies.
Bad orgasms can make it difficult to enjoy sex and masturbation with the same enthusiasm. You may avoid certain sexual situations or feelings because it makes you anxious.
2. You've been trying to "force" yourself to orgasm
Some people find that specific sexual fantasies or actions make them anxious or out of control. This anxiety may make it difficult for them to experience orgasm when they try these things in real life. In response, they may avoid sexual situations that make them anxious.
3. You've been experiencing inconsistent orgasms
If you're not consistently having enjoyable orgasms, it may be hard to know what's normal and what's not. Unfortunately, sexual problems are widespread, especially among women.
How do I have Better Orgasms?
After several frequent bad orgasms, people began to really dislike sex all together, stuck in the vicious cycle that they will never experience mind blowing satisfying orgasm ever again. It is therefore crucial for these people to find some quiet time to reflect on the roots of their bad orgasms. In addition to reflecting on why the bad orgasm may have taken place, having regular conversations with a close friend, mental health professional, and their partner about the experience can help too.
Some tips that may help include relaxation exercises. Relax and listen to your body. Get yourself into the mood slowly. Start by exploring your body, your favourite spots and not so favourite ones. Focusing on the clitoris during masturbation or oral sex, experimenting with different types of stimulation and pressure, and using a vibrator in addition to other forms of stimulation. If you're failing to orgasm with a partner, be honest and communicate your feelings, then work together to find what pleases you.