Just what do women think about during sex? Those mile-a-minute thoughts don't necessarily stop, and sex itself can impact them, as you'll see if you keep reading.
Her Performance
Women frequently self-monitoring during sex. That means she's thinking about how she looks, sounds, and feels and whether her skills are up to par or if her partner is comparing her to past partners. While anyone can have these thoughts, they can become a problem if they're all women can think about. Women who struggle to stay in the moment can redirect their attention to how they feel, instead bringing us to our next point. n
Physical Sensations
A woman feels her partner's hands, mouth, breath, genitals, and other body parts during sex, which naturally moves her body. A woman might think about her breathing and the blood pounding in her veins.
But it's not necessarily good. If sex is uncomfortable, a woman might be thinking about how something hurts, feels overwhelming, or is causing cramps. Plus, thoughts might stray from sex if she can't get her mind off of her bloated stomach, heartburn, period cramps, or sore muscles after a workout.
Her To-Do List
There's a cliche about how women think about laundry or other chores during sex. Hopefully, it's not as prevalent as people believe, but it can be hard to stay in the moment when there's a mountain of work to do, especially if the less is less than stellar. When a woman's partner helps lighten the loud around the house and with children, it reduces her mental load, too. That gives her a much better chance of enjoying the sex she has, instead of counting the moments until sex is over.
Her Partner's Performance and Effort
Most women at least prefer clitoral stimulation to orgasm. So if her clitoris isn't getting adequate stimulation, a woman might wonder why her partner is ignoring it or unskillful. She might also consider whether it would be okay for her to reach down and do the job herself. This might turn to thoughts about whether her partner is a good or bad lover or if she wants to sleep with him again.
Unfortunately, many women find it hard to ask for what they want. This might be due to how girls are socialized and how society views intercourse as the ultimate form of sex, further overshadowing a woman's pleasure. Women don't need to voice every thought they have during sex. If a previous partner was a bit more well-endowed, for example, she can keep mum. However, talking about what she wants and needs during sex is important to combatting some of the negative thoughts women have during sex.